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The Energy You Build
There’s a truth most people don’t realize until life slows them down enough to see it - the energy you build is the energy you end up living in.
And the moment something starts feeling conditional, your body knows. It’s a quiet tightening. A subtle heaviness. A reminder that the exchange no longer feels balanced.
It isn’t the big gestures that define you. Not the moments where you overextend to look kind. Not the yes you give to avoid disappointing someone.
Many people try to be good by doing more - more giving, more pleasing, more “understanding” even when it costs them. But that isn’t goodness. That’s self-abandonment decorated as virtue.
Real goodness is quiet and unconditional. Not unconditional sacrifice - unconditional sincerity.
It sounds like:
- giving because your heart is full, not because you feel you should
- speaking truth even if it shifts the dynamic
- walking away without resentment because you didn’t betray yourself
- choosing clarity instead of performing kindness
When your actions come from a true place, you feel lighter. When they come from pressure or guilt, everything gets heavier - including you.
So this week, pause gently.
Not to judge yourself, but to listen to yourself.
Where am I giving, agreeing, or showing up in a way that no longer feels unconditional - and what shifts when I choose sincerity instead?
Coaching Insight
Conditional energy is often a sign that you’ve gone past what feels true for you.
It’s not about doing less - it’s about doing what matches your real capacity and your real feelings.
When you honor that, life naturally feels steadier and lighter.
Written by Abigail Richard
Founder of arickard | Coach & Consultant | Author of Self-Love Blueprint & Unbreakable. Supporting leaders and changemakers to regulate their nervous system, gain clarity, and find calm - so they can lead with presence, purpose, and emotional depth.
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