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What We Bring Begins With How We Treat Ourselves
The holidays come with a familiar rhythm.
Plans. Gatherings. Conversations. Expectations.
And somewhere in the middle of all that, we forget to check how full we actually are.
Not in a dramatic way. Just quietly.
Sometimes balancing our energy isn’t about fixing anything. It’s as simple as how we treat ourselves.
Not the polished version. Not the healed version. The real one.
Because when we’re hard on ourselves, that tension doesn’t stay inside. It enters the room with us. It shows up in our tone, our reactions, even our silence.
When we soften toward ourselves, something shifts. Quietly. Naturally.
Often, that shift begins with acknowledgment.
- to the person I was - thank you for surviving.
- to the person I am - I’m proud of how far you’ve come.
- to the person I’m becoming - I look forward to the steadiness you’ve worked so hard to find.
Nothing dramatic happens when we say this. But something settles.
And that settling matters.
Because the way we relate to ourselves becomes the way we enter spaces, conversations, and relationships.
When we arrive unsettled, the space often feels it.
When we arrive more settled, the space steadies too.
This isn’t about skipping the gathering or withdrawing from life. It’s about how we show up.
So before the staff party. Before the family table. Before the conversation you know might stretch you.
Pause.
Not to judge yourself. Not to decide if you’re “ready”. Just to acknowledge yourself.
Sometimes, that’s enough to change the energy you bring.
This Week’s Insight Pause
Not a question to solve. A moment to notice.
Before we go - before we enter the room, the gathering, the conversation - how are we treating ourselves?
Because what we carry doesn’t stay contained. It becomes part of the space.
We don’t need to be perfectly balanced. We just need to arrive honest.
Sometimes, that honesty with ourselves is enough to soften what we bring.
Coaching Insight
How we treat ourselves is the energy we bring into a room.
When we’re unsettled inside, the space often feels it.
When we arrive more settled, the space steadies too.
Balance doesn’t start in the moment we show up.
It starts in the relationship we have with ourselves beforehand.
Written by Abigail Richard
Founder of arickard | Coach & Consultant | Author of Self-Love Blueprint & Unbreakable. Supporting leaders and changemakers to regulate their nervous system, gain clarity, and find calm - so they can lead with presence, purpose, and emotional depth.
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